« I tried to make good feelings and ignore the bad, to stay in tune with the morality and the system of values that I had accepted. Actually to be loved as a girl. It was a pure loss: at the end of the day, I had to recognize that I could not create love on command and that on the other hand it was born spontaneously in me, since I did not force myself to do so and did not try to conform to moral precepts. To really love I need to feel free and accept all my feelings, even if they are negative. »

« As long as one despises the other and overvalues performance, one escapes the sorrow of having been loved only for his performances. The grandiosity preserves the illusion of having been loved. But, by avoiding this grief, one remains, deep down, the despised. »

« An adult can only live his feelings if, as a child, he had parents, or parental surrogates, attentive to his needs. Since the child abused individual has not experienced this, he cannot be surprised by feelings, for only feelings can be found in him that inner censorship, the successor of the parents, allows and approves. Depression, inner emptiness are the price to pay for this control. The true Self cannot communicate because it has not developed, having remained unconscious, locked up in an inner prison. The use of jailers does not promote development. It is only after liberation that the Self begins to express itself, to grow and to develop its creativity. And where once there existed only this dreaded emptiness or agonizing fantasies of grandeur, a spring of life, of unexpected wealth, arises. It's not a home trip - because we've never had one. It's finding your home. »