« You can only help someone if they seek help and know they are in a state of distress. However, most parents who seriously abuse their children are not aware of their distress. Nor do they feel guilty, because they have only experienced similar treatments as children and have learned to regard it as fair. »
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Alice Miller
Forbidden knowledge |
Alice Miller
Forbidden knowledge
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« Rimbaud's biography is a typical example of how the body is bound to search for a lifetime during the real food from which it was so early private (NDR: maternal love). Rimbaud was irresistibly driven to fill this gap, to appease a hunger that could no longer be satisfied. From this perspective, her addiction, her wanderings and her relationship with Verlaine are not only explained as a flight from the mother, but also as the search for food that the mother had refused her. Because this inner reality was bound to remain unconscious, Rimbaud's existence was placed entirely under the sign of the mechanism of repetition. After every failed escape attempt, he returns to his mother's house. This is what he will do after the break-up with Verlaine and also at the end of his life, after sacrificing his creativity, giving up writing for years and taking up the profession of merchant: in other words, after having met, indirectly, the demands of his mother. Arthur Rimbaud spent the last days of his life in the hospital in Marseille, but before that he had stayed with his mother and sister in Roche, getting treatment there. His quest for maternal love ended in the prison of his childhood. »
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Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie |
Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie
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« For me, knowledge and consciousness have always been a positive thing. It seemed to me illogical, therefore, that God forbade Adam and Eve to discover the essential difference between good and evil. (...) I intuitively refused to consider obedience as a virtue, curiosity as a sin, and ignorance of good and evil as the ideal state, for for I was the apple of knowledge to identify Evil and, therefore, represented liberation, and therefore Good. (p.15) »
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Alice Miller
Free to Know: Opening Our Eyes to Our Own History |
Alice Miller
Free to Know: Opening Our Eyes to Our Own History
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