« I focus on the first experiences of life when I try to understand the deep roots of delinquency behaviour. In spite of this particular interest, the following thing happened to me: after writing all this chapter and controlling the passages I had retained in the book, I realized that I had skipped the passage most important to me. It was the quote about the baby's blows. The omission of this passage, which was nevertheless of considerable importance to me since it confirmed my thesis, seemed to me to prove to me the difficulty we had in representing a mother beating a baby, not defending ourselves from this image and fully accepting its emotional effects. This is probably the reason why psychoanalysis deals so little with these things, and why the consequences of these childhood experiences have been so little studied. »
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Alice Miller
It's for your own good. |
Alice Miller
It's for your own good.
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« The inner need to constantly build new illusions and denials to avoid living one's own truth disappears once this truth has been lived. We see then that all our lives we feared something, we defended ourselves against something, which can no longer happen, because it has already happened, and this at the beginning of our life, when we were helpless. »
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Alice Miller
The child in terror |
Alice Miller
The child in terror
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« But what happens when there is no longer any trace of this life, because education has succeeded perfectly and to the end, as was the case for example in men like Adolf Eichmann or Rudolf Huss? They were so well trained in obedience, and they were trained so early, that this education never failed, that this building never had the slightest crack, that it remained perfectly impervious and that no feeling ever shook it; these beings executed all the orders given to them until their last hour without ever questioning their contents. They did not execute them because they considered them to be just orders, but simply because they were orders exactly as the "black pedagogy" wants. »
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Alice Miller
It's for your own good. |
Alice Miller
It's for your own good.
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