« A political commitment can be fuelled by the unconscious anger of the abused child, the child who is trapped, exploited, suffocated, trained. This anger may find some outlet in, for example, the fight against political opponents, while preserving the idealization of one's own and concrete reference person in early childhood. The old infeodation can then be moved to leader figures or groups. If the disillusionment and grief that follows can be experienced, it usually does not lead to the relaxation of social or political commitment, but simply to a liberation: instead of acting under the empire of the compulsion of repetition, one can act in a clear, conscious and according to an objective, without harming oneself. The inner need to constantly build new illusions and denials to avoid living one's own truth disappears once this truth has been lived. We see then that all our lives we feared something, we defended ourselves against something, which can no longer happen, because it has already happened, and this at the beginning of our life, when we were helpless. »
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Alice Miller
The future of the drama of the gifted child |
Alice Miller
The future of the drama of the gifted child
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« The father of the paranoid Schreber, whose case Freud recounts, had written in the mid-19th century several textbooks of education so popular in Germany that some were reissued forty times and translated into several languages. The author repeated tirelessly that it was necessary to start educating the child as soon as possible, as early as his fifth month, to free him from the "germs of evil". »
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Alice Miller
It's for your own good. |
Alice Miller
It's for your own good.
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« This awakening of sensitivity to the suffering of childhood has far-reaching consequences: suddenly it is no longer possible to consider cruelty, perversion and crime as educational practices used for our good, we are forced to take a stand and stop embellishing crimes. Some are already capable of it. They no longer want to help hide the truth. They work with abused children, they see what children are done every day, they see that the state, the school and the Church protect the crime without recognizing it as such. Who are they? If they, like all of us, had to undergo "black pedagogy", they must have met at least one being in childhood who was not cruel to them and thus offered them the opportunity to perceive the cruelty of their parents. For this requires a helping witness, a corrective witness. A child who knows nothing but cruelty, who has not benefited from the presence of such a witness, will not identify cruelty for what it is. »
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Alice Miller
Forbidden knowledge |
Alice Miller
Forbidden knowledge
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