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« We now know, as adults, that we have been mystified, that we have received, in exchange for our efforts, only a semblance of love. Why, then, do we persist in expecting that people who, for whatever reason, have not been able to love us, will eventually do so. »
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Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie |
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Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie
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« Anger against parents, strictly forbidden but very intense in children, is transferred to other beings and to one's own self, but it is not eliminated from the world, on the contrary: by the possibility given to it to pour on children, it spreads throughout the world like a plague. »
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Alice Miller
It's for your own good. |
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Alice Miller
It's for your own good.
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« When we are dealing with adults in our young age who never try to be clear with their own feelings, we are faced with extremely insecure chaos. To escape this disarray and feeling of insecurity, we use the mechanisms of disconnection and refoulement. We feel no fear, we love our parents, we trust them and try at every opportunity to conform to their desires so that they are happy with us. It is later, only in adulthood, that this fear manifests itself, usually in our relationship, and we do not understand what is happening. As in our childhood, we want, here too, in order to be loved, to accept the contradictions of the other without blowing a word. »
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Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie |
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Alice Miller
Our bodies never lie
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