« I have good news: the carefree world you dream of exists. And a bad one: it's called paradise and it's not for now. In the meantime, we will try to settle with this world, which is called Life... »

« It's still better to increase your tolerance for uncertainty! How do I train? For example, by stopping overprotecting, over-planning. You can go with your spouse on the weekend without planning where you would go to sleep. Or organize an evening with friends without having prepared the meal in advance. Or let your spouse do the shopping for us (if we usually do them). Of course, it might not be as good as if we had locked everything as usual. So what? Is it that bad? Aren't we training ourselves to endure uncertainty and imperfection? How can we bear them if you never confront them? »

« Learning to accept problems Under the influence of anxiety, one would almost come to consider that it is not normal that they exist! That they are necessarily proof of incompetence (of oneself or others) or of an anomaly. Hence a negative attitude and an anxious perfectionism: the more I am subjected to negative moods, the more I will perceive any problem as a threat and not as a demand, a more or less normal difficulty, at least to solve. The very existence of the problem is considered abnormal. No doubt due to a certain pessimism and doubts in the ability to regulate it (failing self-esteem is obviously a source of anxious moods). But the trouble is that then the concern is centered on the problem (because we say that it is not normal, we do not accept it), not on the solution (because to access the search for solution, you must have accepted the problem and its existence). What patients who have been able to make progress recognize: "Rumination is not a solution," "I was always concerned, but not always effective," "I thought about problems all the time, but badly." »