« Deciding to be slow to anger and not hate anyone. By exploring the twists and brains of our unconscious motivations, modern psychology has come to greatly underestimate the importance of our conscious decisions in the processes of change. But it is possible to decide to leave less and less room for anger and resentment in one's life. In any case, what is possible is to decide to work on it. Knowing that, as in all struggles against habits, there will be many relapses and returns of resentment: we must accept that it comes back regularly without considering it as proof that it is impossible, but simply that these returns are part of the process of change. In France, and more generally in Latin countries, efforts to deal with anger are hardly emphasized, and there are more books devoted more or less directly to the praise of anger or the right to anger, than textbooks explaining how to control it. In other countries, anger is taken more seriously: in the United States, for example, but also in many other places, there are specialized health centres and websites dedicated to angry people who want to be. »

« Do not forget his happiness and his inner balance. At some point in my resentments, ask me sincerely, "Do I want to continue like this? Do I feel good about these moods? There is a total incompatibility of the states of anger and those of happiness. This is the most radical incompatibility in the subtle alliances of moods: one can be happy despite one's sadness, or in spite of one's concern. But not happy and upset. Anger systematically disturbs harmony and connection to the world. To live happily (or nearly), it is essential to develop an aversion to anger and resentment. It is essential to feel more and more anger as a suffering: it is uncomfortable, but it is a progress... »

« Remember that there is no useful resentment. Gradually, learn not to tolerate them in themselves. For example, anger because you've lost your way on a vacation hike, or when you're going to dinner with friends. Start by trying to smile instead of getting angry. To do this, plan and anticipate the coming of the annoyance. To say: "This is typically the kind of situation where, in the event of a small incident, I get angry quickly. I'm calming down in advance now. I immediately assess whether or not it is worth getting upset about. I immediately accept this: losing myself is a normal life event. It is true that now, with GPS, we will no longer be able to use these small incidents as a means of strengthening our patience and wisdom. But, suddenly, we will be even more helpless on the day of the GPS failure ... »