« Having heterocompassional mantras In the same process, to gradually antagonize our reflexes to judge or assault, remember: "People do what they can," "A person who assaults is a person who is ill, or who is afraid," "Breathe before answering." And for loved ones: "This person loves you, even if he is assaulting you. »

« André Comte-Sponville writes that "tragedy is all that resists reconciliation, good feelings, blissful optimism or bleating." Kass! Then: "It is life as it is, without justification, without providence, without forgiveness." Okay, okay... And finally, he says, "It is the feeling that reality is to be taken or left, together with the joyful will to take it." Phew, we're breathing. He adds elsewhere: "As for those who claim that happiness does not exist, it proves that they have never been truly unhappy. Those who have experienced misfortune know well, by difference, that happiness also exists. The pragmatism of happiness and unhappiness is felt in the flesh... »

« Have self-fulfilling mantras. In Buddhist and Hindu traditions, the mantra is a very collected phrase that will be repeated regularly to permeate. It is a word from Sanskrit, which basically means "mind protection tool" (manas: weapon or tool of the mind, and tra: protection). We may have personal mantras such as: "Take care of yourself," "Don't hurt yourself," "Need to assault yourself," "No double punishment," "Do what you have to do," "Don't hate yourself." This may of course seem a little naïve or rigid, but in practice, such phrases can represent small automatisms of recall to order, when our inner demons bring to our minds opposite formulas, "self-destructive mantras": "You suck," "It's a disaster," "You'll never get there," "You don't deserve it," etc. Having these self-healing mantras regularly rotated in our minds during meditation exercises can also help automate them. Not to become robots, but so that the other automatisms, those that our past has deposited in us, are limited, until we can think about them calmly. To my knowledge, this approach has not been the subject of any scientific validation (or invalidation) studies. Simply, many patients seem to have spontaneously adopted it: "Now I have a little voice in my head that says, "Don't hurt yourself." Victor Hugo had said this more solemnly in The Contemplations: "From some profound word every man is the disciple." »