« A second premise underlying the attitude that there is nothing to learn about love is to assume that the problem of love is a problem of "object", not a problem of "faculty". People think it's easy to love, but it's hard to discover the "right object" to love - or who will love them. »

« Is love an art? In this case, it requires knowledge and effort. Or is love a pleasant feeling, whose experience is a matter of chance, in which one "falls" if luck smiles on you? This little book is based on the first premise, although no doubt most people believe in the latter today. Not that people imagine that love is irrelevant. They're hungry for it, they're going to see countless movies about happy and unhappy love stories, they're listening to hundreds of the most mediocre love songs - and, yet, almost no one thinks they have much to learn about love. »

« But most people feel that it is too difficult to give up their "having" orientation; any attempt in this direction arouses in them intense anguish, and they feel that they are no longer safe at all, as if, not knowing how to swim, they were rushed into the ocean. They do not know that once they have given up the crutch of the property, they can start using their own strength and start walking on their own. »