« For a child everything is meaning language, what happens around him and that he observes. And he's thinking about it. And a child thinks and listens all the better because he does not look at the person who speaks. Again, this is very important: when a teacher wants the children to look at them, they lose 50% of the children's attention. For us adults, it's the opposite: we like to look at the person who speaks. The child if he has his hands busy with something else, whether he flips through a book, a magazine, or comics, or plays something, that's when he listens, but fantastically everything that happens around him, he listens "in truth" and memorizes... Children must not look at the master, but above all you have to listen to them sound all the time. Children who don't noise, who don't play something, don't listen. »
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Françoise Dolto
It's all language |
Françoise Dolto
It's all language
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« I think the child's interest is to talk about his drawings. If he doesn't show them, don't make a big deal out of them. But if the child comes to show her mother her drawings, let her not blithely say "He is very beautiful" without more. She has to tell him about what is represented in the story in there: "And again?... What's going on here? ... For example here? What's going on here? What is it? Oh, yes! Well, you see, I wouldn't have seen that." Let's talk about these drawings. This is what is interesting for the child, not that he is admired. The child whose drawings are admired may be inclined to repeat themselves to interest adults. »
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Françoise Dolto
When the child appears, Volume 1 |
Françoise Dolto
When the child appears, Volume 1
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« Passivity is not virtue. »
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Françoise Dolto
When the child appears: Tome 2 |
Françoise Dolto
When the child appears: Tome 2
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