« The only sin is not to risk yourself to live one's desire. »
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Françoise Dolto
The Gospels and Faith at risk of psychoanalysis, or, The Life of Desire |
Françoise Dolto
The Gospels and Faith at risk of psychoanalysis, or, The Life of Desire
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« No child enters into analysis without paying: he is entitled to three free sessions for him, that is, paid for by the parents or Social Security. I warn him: "If you're interested in work, you'll see after three sessions; then, you will pay a symbolic price, I will not see you if you do not bring something..."; the little ones, a pebble; the biggest ones, a stamp; if they have pocket money, a ten-cent coin. The child who arrives empty at the next session, I congratulate him on his refusal (or forgetting) and tell him to come back if he wishes the next time with his symbolic payment and I keep his appointment. I reassure the parents: "No... You're worried about your child, but he (or she) doesn't think it's worth paying ten cents: it breaks a carambar, and he's right: he doesn't feel the need to be helped, or he doesn't trust me, you'd do the same." It is an extraordinary lever: it causes the child to genuinely desire to express himself. He sometimes experiences something new that he is not being taken by force; it's not great to prepare a little stamp at home, pick up a rock and bring it... And those who don't, it's really that they don't need the treatment. It is the parents who then, worried about him (or her) come for the child. I invite them: "Come and talk about the situation with your child... We will work together to find out why your child may not yet feel responsible for him or her." Very often it is the parents who prevent their child from becoming self-sufficient. They are anxious, but their child is not yet anxious. He expresses himself as a passive or active object to the desires of others who want to impose himself on him. »
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Françoise Dolto
The cause of children |
Françoise Dolto
The cause of children
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« After his mission was accomplished according to what was written, the doubt grips Christ with anguish, like every human being concerning his own faith, the certainty of his right, the truth of his desire and his accomplished work. »
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Françoise Dolto
The Gospel at risk of psychoanalysis, Volume 1 |
Françoise Dolto
The Gospel at risk of psychoanalysis, Volume 1
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