« Parents often believe that the most gifted child can pull the other up, help him succeed, but I have hardly ever seen him in my practice. It is very rare to see a good math student go to the trouble of giving his brother the secret of his success; he would be too afraid that one day the latter would be able to put him in trouble. It's the same in sports. »

« At the risk of shocking, I would say that, for the child, at first, love is a kind of forcing. Parents feel that they have to love their children, which is quite new. For years, even centuries, many children were not as (over)invested, as sacred as they are today. To be quite honest, I think parents love the imaginary child they project on the real child; in turn, children love their parents, but they are often imaginary parents, better than they actually are. Love is a mirror, an abyss, the meeting of two imaginary, two illusions. We will see it in adolescence when the children will constantly demolish the ideal parental images that helped them grow up and adjust to the real parents, not necessarily bad but much less good than they had believed. In the background, the child trains to love, the parents serving as a draft for love. Between them, in fact, love will continue to evolve, in order to make way for other objects of investment. »

« It all starts with the famous caa boudin to which no one escapes, around 2, 3 years old, the age of the phase, and which comes to express the pride felt to be able to control himself and the aggressiveness that attaches to it. To say "caca pudding" is to translate into word the function of excretion, to symbolically bring out what was within oneself, and to experience, by pronouncing it, a pleasure similar to that which provides the excretion itself. Very soon, the "caca boudin" will give way to raw insults, which the children repeat without understanding its meaning. It is not up to the parents to explain to them what it means to be "fucked" or "slut". On the other hand, this kind of insult should not be directed directly at them, as it induces a lack of respect. As long as the child is small, the dirty word may seem amusing to some parents; this is quite different in adolescence, where these abuses of language are sometimes the preforms of physical violence against parents. Bad words are tolerable only between peers. »