« Today, many adults believe they can simply tell their children the truth to make it all right. But explanations, even justifications, cannot solve everything. Speech is not magic, because behind every word there is a meaning that varies according to the stage of the child's development. In reality, the reasoning must be reversed: it is up to parents to know where their children stand in their development to understand the feelings that upset them. »

« The dream of being an only child It is probably between 7 and 14 years that the distance is the greatest between brother and sister, each evolving in his own world. The character of one is at odds with that of the other. The boy leads a very physical life made up of power relations in search of athletic performance. On the other hand, the girl can spend hours chatting with her friends and telling them secrets. The annoyance is mutual. At home, everyone isolates themselves in their room and behaves like an only child. Older boys are totally indifferent to their younger children. They really have to be at risk for them to come forward, especially in cases of aggression by other children. The older sister, for her part, is increasingly authoritarian with her "baby" as a little brother. There is, of course, no question that she will take over the surveillance for even a few minutes. »